Most little girls grow up playing house and taking care of their baby dolls... we have playdates with our little girlfriends and make believe that our pretend children are friends. The real world is a COMPLETELY different story.
Most of your girlfriends fall into 3 categories...there are the friends that have kids and stay involved in with the people close to them....there are friends that have kids and get completely engulfed in their "new" status that they leave their friends behind.... and then there are those friends who have been trying to start their family but are having issues so they find being close to friends with children either painful or annoying. You will find that all of your friends will fall into this category at one time or another...
The part that I personally find most difficult is that I always want my friendships to remain as they are and to grow... no matter who has kids and when. It is fabulous when you are at a point in your life and your girlfriend can relate. It is painful and it stinks when you have friends that are not a part of your life because they have children and feel like you won't understand... or when they leave you out of the heartache they are going thru b/c they feel you won't understand what it's like not to be able to get pregnant. I love my friends and want to be involved in all their lives... no matter how hectic or insane or drama filled. Like I said, it's painful to be left out.
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